Carrying a small cup of juice and went to offer his father, and before reaching the steps faltered .. And broke the cup that holds .. Age of panic when he saw drops of blood falling from his hand after Geranha small pieces of glass scattered ..Before I get up and surprised him and his father standing a strong slap on his face, and rushed overwhelmed with a barrage of statements reproof and rebuke did not destination ..
Dalia, a student third grade, I got a high degree exam in the month, took her degree edge guide and rushed out to her mother's joy, if it is indifferent to pay attention by asking them not to ridicule Beset by such petty things ..Rang the door .. India rushed with four years to share her father to receive his friends, entertain and started cursing words that used to play with her father and does not receive it but accept it and laugh and expressions of praise and commendation sometimes .. But this time I was surprised by the revolt and anger, and punishes them with the utmost intensity and in front of them before going to leave ..Beware of these methodsOmar, Dalia and India are not the only case the function on the severity of parental neglect and Tzbzbhm in the treatment of their children, many of the families practiced Osaliba educational wrong in their dealings with young people thinking that these methods are optimal in dealing with them until it becomes strong promises and moderated their behavior, which is, of course, misconceptions have developed either to ignorance of the parents of those roads, or for following the old methods derive rules from the grandparents, or to deprive the father or the mother of the feelings of certain micro Faamdon to the bestowal of these feelings on their children are exaggerated, or vice versa apply the same manner as in the upbringing of their children, despite their refusal to him and convinced Bmsawih.Because the child's personality is formed in the first five years so it was necessary to be mastered every father and mother the right educational methods that develop the child's personality, and make him young and sure of himself, his strong personality, and adaptive and active in the community.In his book, "Fathers and the problems of the children" .. D displays. Mohamed Ali Kamel, Professor of Educational Psychology, Faculty of Education, Tanta University, erroneous educational trends pursued by some parents in the upbringing of their children, which leaves negative effects on the personality of these children.Harsh .. And convergenceD at the beginning warns. Whole lot of families think that the severity and cruelty to children is the best method in education, even moderated the behavior of children, and considers that the concept of a wrong result in personal rebel offensive many quarrels, baptizing the owner to destroy the property of others and torture of animals and birds in response to such cruelty, because it often feels happy when he sees around him is happy.And that it draws attention to the Aitoagaf at this point .. And that this method may lead him to the convergence of Oalanzhab arena of social life in general. Add to feelings of guilt and severe difficulty of an independent person as a result of preventing him from expressing himself. And that he had hated authority in all patterns .. May extend this feeling of opposition to the foreign power in society.Neglect .. And the flightAnd negligence in handling the case of the child embodied Dalia .. Which takes many forms, leaving the child without the parents encourage the behavior is desirable or accountability for the last rejected .. Draws the researcher that children interpret this as a kind of ostracism and hatred, especially if accompanied by ridicule and contempt, as if rushing the child to provide pursuant done, Saad by the mother Fathtmh in non-indifference up, or get a high degree in a subjects not rewarded financially Omanuya, while the received a low score received a rebuke and ridicule are not the last ..Then the child loses his place in the family and feel aggressive towards her, when he grows up and finds in the group, which belongs to the tender and the love denied to him, which explains the escape of some of the children from home to Mazda friends to find enough to satisfy their need for the lost in their homes.The results follow this pattern of education in the emergence of some behavioral disorders in children such as violence and attacks on others, or stubbornness, Oalsergh, or injury to the child emotional dependence and indifference of commands and prohibitions issued by the parents.Fluctuation .. And doubleAnd indicates the researcher in his fluctuating parents in the use of methods of reward and punishment, that the child when punished for certain behavior sometimes and be rewarded for it at other times, as happened with India, he does not know is it right or wrong, and the on-frequency and the unresolved issues, often reflected in his dealings with others becomes a personal volatile double, and when married to his wife are treated fluctuate Vengda treat her gently and tenderness sometimes .. And with the utmost cruelty and without any justification other times.Not only that, it may be in his family are very generous, auditing and permanent grins, but with his friends so someone else .. cream .. Tolerant Dhoka .. .. good at pretending than what they feel.In his work .. Fenrah a good character with the boss is always reluctant to express his views, while headed to the very harsh.Shed .. And submissionAnother method is unacceptable to some parents tend .. And warns the researcher strongly, while standing father to the wishes of the child automatic and prevents him from doing certain conduct to achieve his desires, even if legitimate, or compelled to tasks beyond its capabilities, and is accompanied by the use of violence or beatings, deprivation, and then formulate a list of prohibitions far exceed the list of allowances, if require the mother to her baby clothes, food, and even friendships that you see, or to impose on the son the father specialized in a particular study, believing them to be in the interest of the son must understand that without this method to have serious implications for mental health and his future.He explains that the child shall be established and has a strong tendency to undergo and follow the others, can not innovate or think .. Does not have the ability to express an opinion or accession in any discussion.This method also helps in the formation of personal concern .. Always afraid of the power .. Are shy and sensitive and has the extra feeling of negligence and lack of lasting achievement.Demonstrate .. And disregardIn contrast to domination, we find some parents encourage the child to achieve most of his desires and wants, without guidance or alert to stop the unacceptable behaviors, whether religiously or morally or socially and lenient with him in it.Laugh if the parent of her child, while others break things and ravaged without rebuke him or chides him on this tampering is rejected, or when they do battle with a child Vetoavgah it but protected at the time had to be rotated on the act.And often resort to the mother while the pampering touch the cruelty of the father towards the child feels compassion overload and Tdallalh compensation for what he misses from his father, or because the mother and father both Terbaa Fatbakan the same way on their son.And because it is not exaggeration or neglect .. It is the results of that treatment to get used to take the child to always do not give .. And others to meet his requests and that they do not get angry and revolt and believed to be enemies to him, and be very very sensitive and cry.The disaster also alert the researcher that this child when he grows up perfect believed in his actions and that is far above the error, and when he married his wife, carrying all the responsibilities without any post from him and be submerged as a result of careless love, without any guidance.Protection rejectedThe approaching method of pampering from increased security both in terms of its causes Ottdaayate, and the last we see one of the responsibilities of parents, which is supposed to be paid by the child .. Who shall resolve homework for him or defend him when he assaults another child .. Do not allow him the opportunity to take the decision himself to be deprived of freedom of action in many of its affairs.And d is due. Fully follow the parents for this increased security for fearing the son, especially if the child is the first or the only, or if a child the center of many of the girls or vice versa Phippalgan in his education and fear it.This method also considers contributes to form the child character is weak is not independent feared storming new situations, depends on others in the performance of his duties personal, does not have the ability to take responsibility and trust in the decisions issued by the spite of his confidence in the decisions of others and adopt them in everything , in addition to not accept the criticism and low capacity to adapt because of the deprivation of satisfying his need for independence in his childhood.Provoke painWhen the child becomes Ansahabia? This is achieved when parents exaggerate in the notice of guilt whenever the child came to an undesirable behavior or whenever expressed a desire bad.This was the answer to the researcher, who added that parents when baptized to raise the child pain and reduce Bthkirh would search for his mistakes and criticism of his behavior down, it loses self-confidence so hesitant when doing any work for fear of adults deprived of satisfaction and love.And directs his aggression when he grows up to the same Faihtmha and scorned by others, while praising them and proud of their accomplishments, always felt that the attention directed to generating a sense of fear has not agreed at all.Does not distinguish among themMy brother changed me because I am smarter! .. My eldest daughter party looks down on her sister's beautiful .. reasonable? I envy my children to their brother's superior .. PUBLIC galleries but this feeling and Astgrabh .. Is a possible brother envies his brother?Yes .. Children may feel hatred and envy of them preferred to have a parent .. This is illustrated by the researcher to some families prefer the son of the children because of the superiority or intelligence or beauty .. pointing out that this favorite Jasper selfish loves that accounts for everything for himself at the expense of others, even if they were his brothers or his parents, he sees only himself and others Ihmunh not, knows what he just did not know what it is .. Demanding their rights do not always care about his or her duties .. And this character is always hated by everyone, even the people closest to him.And finally .. After reviewing this collection of erroneous methods in education .. To be sure, most of us in March with each of his sons without knowing the devastating impact on their personality .. It is important to think for yourself .. And face your mistakes ..
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