A new study finds that children can at the age of 15 months, the distinction between what is just and what is not fair, and confirmed Jessica Somerville, a researcher responsible for the study, that "the standards of justice and altruism are gaining more quickly than we thought in children."According to the study, many parents have placed themselves in the "thee" and put their children in front of psychological problems are endless due to the lack of equity between their children also confirms advisers educators .. Vijs some parents their child or a newborn baby a lot of sympathy when they scrutinized their son most material things new and in-kind gifts and requests that do not expire and that may require years of age and going through ..Errors educationalSays "gift" the mother of Selma, 4 years, and age, year and a half: the beginning of the new school year I had to buy a lot of things to a peaceful "bag of new books and school uniforms, pens and other details of many I bought it for the first time" .. Salma was very happy with all those things .. And the fact that whenever he wanted her younger brother that shared play pens and papers, as do we all stand in the face and give him another game so as not to tear apart what is paid by the blood of our heart."Maha" another mother says: When God blessed me with my son, "fair" you buy many new clothes him even before he was born because it is my first son .. When God blessed me with his brother, "Muhannad" I could not bought all those things again, but I migrate your old clothes to use it with Adel Muhannad. Thus, we used to come to the fair every new Muhannad takes the rest of the fair, but on special occasions such as Eid, for example they must buy the two all-new.Master, a father of three children, he says, promises that the king of everything and are the first child .. When a living God by the light of religion that we are used inadvertently shared in a game, .. We did not we buy a lot of new things such as his sister .. After that we mind when we noticed that the king prevented her brother from playing with them and says that those things all their own .. Even when we buy him something special that the boys designed their own thing, which will decide when to play it and when not to play .. We know that this is our fault since the beginning and are now trying to modify the situation and understandable that his brother in everything, just like her.Conviction of parentalIn commenting on this subject says Mona Ahmed, Educational Advisor: Parents must justice among children at the beginning of their lives even before they completed 15 months, because the thinking is hugely influential in behavior, and from here to there must be convinced clan of parents in education on the principle ofJustice between the ages of children no matter how different, is not a criterion may proclaim the Son of understanding of what the parents as much as to be on the basis of this conviction.If the child of the 15 already feeling the extent of justice between him and his brother is here become absolutely necessary to treat the parents in this sense and respect the equality of children, and a lot to see unusual kind of altruism, followed by some families Vengdam influence heavily on small altruistic financially because they believed not aware of the small, the influence small on the great moral and emotional thinking that he needed to love and care more, and the fact that they are misconceptions in both cases, all of them need equality and justice in the treatment of physical and moral integrity.And follow up: What parents do not realize that children per se, very sensitive to parents' dealings with them .. But they can smile and sense of parental reactions and whether they are true. Indeed, we may find that families do not care about the impact of inequality between children to end up the youngest child to obtain all the things his brother's hand, and the fact that it is very dangerous not only for the younger children, but most of the child, who may get used to getting everything for himself.And stresses the Mona Ahmed to make more sense in this case would be the parent for all of them on his things new, and not harm, in some cases, the use of some of the things the older brother safe, but with the consent of the older child and talk to him on the basis that they no longer suit them and at the same time the possibility of using his younger brother, taking into account each new purchase at the same time, even if it was something simple to achieve equality.
The parents wonder of a child 15 months if they felt upset and tried to take his brother's new if things did not get to like her, was laughing and eating it with some fun and they do not know that it is dangerous and leaves a negative impact on children.
It draws me to justice among the children easier to achieve and that each stage of their needs and age of each child in these stages appropriate to the age of his things, and justice is not to bring the two things are similar, but to bring what fits their respective needs and fits his abilities.And tells us that if for every father and mother to their children Atalibo friendly relationship, including their mouth that they are not a cause in the development of the seed to disrupt this relationship in the beginning not to justice and equality. And that the password is the conviction internal justice between children no matter how different ages to achieve the principle of equality when the large and small, and they value it is important to be aware of parents well, and that the password the second is the full awareness of the ability of the child to receive all the reaction from parents towards his objections and requests similar to his brother and put somewhere in his mind and conscience to announce its impact on later.Justice in stepsFor its part, attaches d. Wafa Abu Musa, an expert psychological in the field of childhood, the study prior to the sign that the child has knowledge of what is fair or unfair, because it recognizes the significant any knows what you see in his eyes and touch senses other realizes he got one apple and his brother Tfahtin, On the other hand, the child does not understand the reasons behind the lack of remedy, such as it was not fair because his older brother is enrolled in school he bought his father a lot of things pretty private study, and here runs in their lives a lot of psychological problems Kagheirh and behavioral problems Kannad and are an expression of rejection of the child's practiced by his parents from unfair methods of brotherhood.And explains that the findings of the study confirms what was said by Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him: "treat your children, treat your children." [Narrated by Ahmad, Abu Dawood and al-Bayhaqi and Women's and other bond properly, and horses. And also saying: "Sawohm even kisses."And how to overcome the problem of discrimination among children .. Abu Musa advised that this is done through:
- Starting in the treatment of children without discrimination on all levels of emotional and physical.- Development of educational systems that apply to everyone without exception only in case of illness or disability.- Do not compare the child another child because the child Balbgdhae comparison injected and anger.- The adoption of methods of promotion or fair warning in addressing educational issues for the child.- Provide parents with all that is new in education in order to provide for their children teaching methods successful in life.- Continuous evaluation of the parents of any methods to evaluate the parents of the children of the educational assessment of architecture-you-go .. Fasalon .. Any of those methods more successful than the other and which is not suitable for children.
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